I get it Nathan. My wife is OK either way. Fast if she wants to get there, slow along the coast (rocks and shoals) to see the sights. She doesn't care...get in closer and go slow is her mantra!
Don't you see the rocks?!!( I SAY) So what! Who cares (SHE SAYS). Go in there anyway! Tiptoe.
She has no 'sea sense". Once I bent a prop at her urging to go out of the channel and had to limp back to port, the lower unit groaning, wanting to quit.
There's more, but that's enough for now.